E-Scale Accreditation Manual Sample Extract
Debriefing the One
Negative Results
- I experience headaches and tight shoulders.
- My body is always tense.
- I’m not able to relax.
- I find it hard to have fun and enjoy my life.
- People are wary of my criticism and defensive around me.
- My relationships are cool and strained.
- I’m never satisfied with the results I achieve.
Behaviour
- I find constant fault with myself.
- I criticise mistakes in others.
- I’m careful to always do the right thing.
- I suppress my anger, resentment.
Internal States
- I feel imperfect.
- I experience an inner voice pointing out my errors.
- I don’t feel good enough.
- I feel that others are not doing things right.
- I feel that I should correct what is wrong.
- I worry constantly.
- I’m unable to relax and enjoy life.
- I feel resentful, angry.
Limiting Beliefs
- I’m right.
- It’s important for me to understand the rules and to always follow them consistently.
- Being criticised is one of the worst things that can happen to me.
- It’s not OK to make mistakes.
- I have to strive to be good.
- Life is a serious business.
- If I can be perfect I’ll be loved, acknowledged and respected.
- I shouldn’t express my anger.
Possible Original Experience
When I made mistakes, I was coldly criticised and felt unloved.
Engaging questions
Repeat following questions for each of the main questions below it
- What were your thoughts?
- How did you feel?
- What did you do?
- What was the result?
Q1. Can you remember a time when you felt angry, but couldn’t express how you felt?
Q2. Think of a time when you felt criticised by someone else.
Q3. Think of a time when you felt it necessary to correct someone.
Q4. Can you think of an example where you were frustrated by others’ lack of delivery or response to tasks you gave them?
Q5. Can you think of a time when you said no to a fun event, because of other more serious commitments?
Q6. Give an example where you found it difficult to delegate a task to a possibly less than competent team or person.
Q7. Think of a situation where happenings were beyond your control.
Q8. Think of a situation where you were blamed yourself for something that went wrong.
Q9. Think of an example where all the responsibility you had to carry felt like too much
Q10. Can you think of a situation where you had to fix others’ mistakes?